When I was a kid, I became aware that a particular thought would affect me negatively. It took some review to realize that some thought had ruined what had been a great mood and a great day. Eventually, I learned to go back in my mind and find the thought that had destroyed my mood. Usually, when I did, I could obliterate the negative feelings by confronting the errant thought. Usually, when I faced the thought, I realized it had been something silly to worry about, but if I had not confronted it, it would have destroyed my day.
I’m not sure what this says about me. I believe it may say I was sensitive or silly enough to let the errant thought affect me. I hope it says I was conscious enough to eventually figure out what had affected my mood and then change it. As I matured, I continued to do mindset work, though I didn’t know the phrase. Now, this phrase has become crucial. And I’m glad.
In schools, we talk about growth versus a fixed mindset with our students. I love this! It brings the responsibility for development back to where it belongs, to the individual. Don’t get me wrong, a good teacher or a caring person, all those things certainly help! But ultimately, it is up to the individual to be receptive to what is taught, to accept the help, to grow from an experience.
I work out sometimes with Pahla B Fitness, because I am a woman of a ‘certain age.’ I like that she has begun to offer helpful thoughts. I think it is an excellent practice to work on one’s mindset, to be mentally healthy, to remind your mind that some thoughts are NOT helpful and just because you think them doesn’t mean they are true.
Perhaps this is why all of my books have main characters that have experienced growth. I like to see growth. After all, living things grow, and change. That’s what makes us a living thing.
